Seven attitudes in a beautiful marriage relationship

In Matthew 5, the seven “beatitudes” are like “beautiful attitudes.”

If you are not married (or even if you are married), they can help you to GET married or STAY married.

In Genesis 24, God helped Eleazar to find a bride for Isaac by the “beautiful attitude” Rebekah showed in offering to water his camels.

Great attitudes make for long-term relationships.

Look carefully at these seven attitudes and be sure they are in the middle of your marriage or relationship:

1. “Blessed are the poor in spirit”

This describes an attitude of DEPENDENCE.

Independence can be a good quality, but it can be selfish.

A great marriage partner is one who seeks to bring their strengths to a relationship so that their partner can be strong where they are weak.

We all need someone to complete us.

2. “Blessed are those who mourn.”

This attitude reflects how a person has dealt with their pain and hurts.

How do they face betrayal?  Sickness?  Rejection?  

Have they been able to heal from their past hurts and background?

Anyone who drags their past failures into your relationship will not be a strong relational partner.

3.  “Blessed are the meek”

Are they humble, or proud, or arrogant?

It sounds simple, but it is profoundly important.

A know-it-all is tough to live with.  They feel intellectually superior to everyone and are incessantly defensive.

It’s easier to work with someone who admits their mistakes rather than constantly blaming others.

5. “Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness.”

This one is super important: Do they desire a relationship with God, whether or not they marry you?

If two people have a vertical relationship with God, their horizontal issues will always work out.

If you weren’t around, would they still go to church?  Are they a person who loves the Word of God and prayer?

6. “Blessed are the merciful.”

Marriage is the union of two imperfect people.  Long-term marriage happens between two great forgivers!

The three questions are these:

• Are they quick to forgive?  Can they get over offenses and move on quickly?

• Are they quick to believe?  Are they skeptical about everything?

• Are they quick to repent? Can they admit they blew it?

6. “Blessed are the pure in heart”

Transparency and honesty are two twin deal makers or deal breakers.

They have to be genuine.

They have to be “clear to the bottom,” nothing murky or shady about their character.

They have to be 100% free from impure motives, impure habits, and impure thoughts and language.

7. “Blessed are the peacemakers.”

Are they a peacemaker instead of a drama queen or king?

Does peace follow everywhere they go, or drama, confusion, and ruined relationships?

Their track record of many failed relationships will likely affect your relationship as well.

Look for the peace of God in their heart and their relationships.

The seven ancient principles from the teaching of Christ can determine success or failure in a long-term marriage.

Happy hunting!