My Top 5 Secrets to Enjoying Life
Why are people making more, owning more, and interacting more…and enjoying it less?
Solomon had everything: intelligence, pleasure, productivity, possessions, and long life. In spite of that, he said, “I hated life!” Really?
What are the secrets to enjoying your life…without or without all those things?
The Curse of Independence In Marriage...And How To Fix It
You have heard it said: “Interdependence, not independence, is the secret of marriage.”
What is this deadly enemy of independence, and how does it silently worm it’s way into the best of marriages?
Back To School: How To Be Prepared and Make It Pleasant
It’s that time again.
Millions of kids will be trooping off to their first nervous day of school.
What can you do to prepare for it and make it a pleasant experience?
Stewardship: How To Save a Ton of Money
It is no secret how to have more money: spend less than you earn.
The problem is not the consumerism we all fall into. It is when we constantly HAVE to buy more because we haven’t taken care of what we have.
Here are some good ideas to “give yourself a big raise” on the same salary:
7 Wealth Principles That Really Matter
“Wealth begins with perspective: “Your OUTLOOK determines your OUTCOME.”
Your outlook on money and finances are directly determining how much of IT you have. And…how much wealth has of YOU!
Here are 7 principles Jesus taught in the Sermon on the Mount (Mt. 6: 19-24) that should control your outlook on wealth:
How To Be An MVP Dad
With the NBA Finals just over, I’ve been thinking about an “MVP: Most Valuable Player.” That’s you, Dad.
Researchers have identified that “fatherlessness” is the #1 issue in many nations today. All of society seems to break down when fathering is absent.
In 38 years of fathering, I’ve made a lot of mistakes. I learned as I went. I don’t want you to have to learn everything the hard way.
Here are my “top 8” lessons I’ve learned along the way:
4 Major Tools That Will Help You to Forgive
All of us face hurt.
Some of us choose to forgive.
The rest of us live in bitterness.
How do you “forgive and forget?” We have a pretty good Example.
Here are 4 perspectives that will help you to forgive:
How To Win the Battle Over Personal Insecurity
Insecurity is a silent enemy.
It ruins your relationships. It limits your leadership. It shows up in every decision. In essence, it is coloring your entire world.
How do you recognize it and conquer it?
Why People Get Lonely Even When They Are Married
People think that when they get married they will “never be lonely again.” Wrong.
Loneliness in marriage is predictable. The longer you live together, the less you feel the need to talk. No wonder so many empty-nesters divorce after their kids leave: the silence is deafening.
What causes it and how do we cure it?
Family Nights: How to Make Them Unforgettable
I have noticed that children and parents seem to be drifting apart. Weeks go by with little conversation or interaction. My father-in-law, Jim Clark, taught me the greatest secret to raising kids: the “family night.”
Here are my “top 10” ideas for a sustainable, fun “family night” that your kids will remember for the rest of their lives:
How To Live a Worry-Free Life
40 million adults in America suffer from some type of anxiety disorder. Millions more face routine worry and anxiety about the day-to-day challenges of life. Finding peace of mind becomes the goal of every day.
Of course, we know that chronic worry can be symptomatic of a deep underlying issue in your soul. We should also not belittle the amazing results medical treatment has done to relieve anxiety. To me, however, we sometimes wear a worry “filter” about everything.
What are some simple ways to get free from worry?
How to Have an Amazing Weekly Date Night
I’m concerned about the state of marriage right now. The average U.S. marriage is only lasting 8 years and 2 months. That averages in all the 40 year marriages like mine! It may not be the ONLY solution, but it is PART of the solution: “a weekly date night.”
Melanie and I have tried to practice this for many years. When our six children all arrived, it became CRITICAL!
You need a break, a “deep breath” from the tremendous pressures of parenting.
Here is how we did it:
4 Reasons Marriages Fail and How to Fix Them
For a lot of couples, Valentine season is a difficult time. They celebrate one more year but inwardly they know their marriage seems to be failing. Often, marriages that seem outwardly successful are privately failing. How can you fix a failing marriage?
Marriage failures usually come down to four main causes:
5 Important Ways to Grow Amazing Children
We all want our children to turn out well. Nothing thrills us more than seeing them go through school, marry well, excel in their career, and fulfill God’s purpose on their lives. Raising children who love, respect, serve, marry well, and contribute to society is not easy.
Here are five principles Melanie and I followed for the entire 32 years we had children in our home:
My Top 4 Secrets that Make Child Discipline EASY
As I go into restaurants and malls, I see parents struggling to maintain control of children. They beg, bribe, and get angry. The “little one” seems to come out victorious. Sympathetic onlookers are tortured as they put themselves in the identical position. What are the secrets that make it seem EASY?
Melanie and I raised our six children on these principles. Everyone has a unique approach, but these are what worked well for us:
5 Important Secrets to Managing Disappointment
We are all human. We set goals, we envision success. What do you do when it all comes crashing down? I recently experienced a deep disappointment. My ninth grandchild went to heaven in his 7th month in the womb. His middle name was my name.
It was sudden. It was unthinkable. The pregnancy was perfect. My daughter-in-law had to deliver that child and my son had to bury that child.
Disappointments are real and, unfortunately, unforeseen.
What are the secrets to managing disappointments?
How to Stay out of Sexual Temptation
You might be saying, “I don’t need this. I would never have an issue with sexual temptation.” You are the perfect person to read this (see point one below!). Satan targets the most stable, fruitful leaders in an attempt to land a dart right in their heart.
Pay close attention to these thoughts and guard your heart:
How to Organize Your Life
The secret of your success is your ability to organize. A disorganized life is disastrous! Your family, your marriage, your career, your ministry, your finances all suffer. You keep trying to get ahead but your lack of organization is keeping you mediocre. I’m not the most organized person in the world.
Therefore, I can help you learn how a disorganized person can become…mainly organized:
4 Practical Ways to Walk in Brotherly Love
Love is the most misunderstood word in the English language. It mainly represents a feeling. A “warm, fuzzy” feeling of gushing emotion. I believe love is practical. It engages in daily honor, respect, generosity, hospitality, and fidelity. In Hebrews 13:1, Paul said four powerful words: “Let brotherly love continue.” Then, he went on to show us four practical ways that love is demonstrated on a daily basis.
Try these out and see how your “love” is working for you:
6 Amazing Secrets to Listening Better
Quick to hear…slow to speak…slow to anger. Those three phrases in James used to bother me. I had trouble with all three, especially the first one: “Quick to hear.” A better “translation” for me would have been, “Slow to listen…quick to speak…quick to get angry!” Notice that your “listening” starts and controls the whole rest of the cycle. First listening, then “words” and then your “emotions.”